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Military Marriage of Convenience?

One way to keep the government out of your personal life is to never let it in. Once you have a divorce decree, you have given the power to someone else to act as the decision maker between husband and wife.

Think of the two children squabbling over a toy, who go to the parent to resolve the issue... and the parent takes the toy away.
~Now, neither child is happy... and so often follows a similar case, with the happiness of the divorcing couple....

When one realizes all the complexities of a military divorce, perhaps it is time to take a second look at whether the marriage can be saved or if divorce is the only option.

The following links provide ideas and viewpoints on stopping a military divorce. Before committing to signing a divorce decree, it's worth exploring all the reasons to save a military marriage. Some would call this a military marriage of convenience but it could be you chooose to save your marriage for religious reasons, for the children, for medical reasons, for other benefits. Defining a couple's relationship as a military marriage of convenience is awfully harsh when one cannot possibly know the details of what goes on behind closed doors.

Who is your spouse?

Resilience:
Reflections on the Burdens and Gifts of Facing Life's Adversities

"When I see John, I don't just see the today that others see. I see all the memories-the look on his face when he held our children as newborns, an ambarrassed pride as he showed his parents through our first hours, the loving way he looked at me when we were with others, the soft and vulnerable way he looked at me and held me when we were alone.... so when I closed the door on the John of today, I also had to say good-buye to that sweet man whom I had loved for so long...."

Saving Your Military Marriage

Stop Your Divorce Three Things You Can Start Doing Right Away To Turn The Tide In Your Favor...
Stay Married Military The Un-Divorce: When Leaving Your Marriage Is Just Too Much Work, By Suzie Parker Politics Daily, Aug, 2010, "Ira and Joyce, a married couple, lived separate lives until the day Ira died....."

Marriage Makeover
The Seven Principles
for Making Marriage Work
The Service Member's Guide to Deployment:
What every Soldier, Sailor, Airmen and Marine should know prior to being deployed

Great Marriage Quotes about Spouses

"I can go off and film in a Third World country and my husband will be looking after our children and allowing me to follow my dreams," she says. "When you travel the world, following the lives of women who don't have support from anyone, you realize that is really quite rare." Christy Turlington